Tuesday, February 21, 2006

Are Babies Born Smart? Can Early Intervention Help?

What does the future hold for your child? Will your precious angel have it better than you did? What can you do to help make sure your child gets a good headstart?

Parents always hope for the best future for their children. They try to get into the best schools, invest their money in numerous musical and art lessons and start reading to their infants before birth. Can any of this help your child become a successful adult?


* How the Brain Works

Scientists now recognize that brain connections - called synapses - are the building blocks for functions such as handling incoming information, expressing emotions and learning language. Connections are built both by genetics and environmental stimuli.

These paths lay down an internal 'wiring' system that will affect your child's future abilities for learning and interacting.

'Nation' magazine reports that brain connections are being wired at an extraordinarily rapid rate in the early years. How can this possibly affect your children?

One thing people talk about often is how amazingly easy it seems to be for young children to pick up a second language.


* Children Need Stimulation

The broader range of activities and experiences a child has will increase the connections made. Clearly, the fact that the greatest growth in connections is made when young indicates that providing this stimulation early on will affect your child's abilities later on.

There are a lot of things you can do, but first and foremost is spending quality time with your child.

Does this mean that parents with little money are not capable of raising intelligent, well-balanced children? Does it mean that all children with access to specialized education will do better?


* Children Learn From Play

Educators believe that unstructured play is crucial to brain development. When parent's guide every activity or bombard their children with planned activities and lessons while leaving out free play, they do not allow the creativity necessary for social, mental and emotional skills.

Let your child's imagination run wild, it can really help them a lot, and it can be fun for everyone involved. Those special moments are fond memories you will often reach back to as the years pass.


* Parents Who Care

Although many would agree that children are strongly affected by their peer group, it is actually parents who develop a child to become caring, self-assured and well-balanced. Parent's should never discount the benefits they are providing for their children by being attentive and responsive to their children.

Children's development also requires emotional connections with parents and others. When babies are not held, touched and played with they actually form fewer connections in their brain.

This also applies to caregivers, babysitters and daycare providers too. Be careful in your selections and keep your child's needs in mind.


* Nature or Nurture

As many experts would acknowledge, brain development can be influenced for good or bad by the upbringing of our children. However, genetics also play a role that cannot be discounted. While saying this, there are examples of individuals who appeared to be born with a genetic disadvantage to their peers and yet surpassed them due to the excellent parenting that was given to them.

So, what can you do to determine how your children will turn out? Focusing on parental care and attention is always the best recommendation, and the least expensive. You cannot guarantee how your children will fare, but they will always be more successful with a supportive and loving family than without.

With care and love, you can put your child on the path to becoming a well-rounded adult. With fun and imagination, you can help your child open up opportunities in all areas of life as they grow older.

Children learn really quick when they are little, not just the good things, but the 'bad' things too, so you have a great opportunity to put your little one on the right path.


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Find out exactly why your child is crying or what is on your angel's mind. Babies can learn to communicate clearly as early as 7 or 8 months of age, well before learning how to speak. Read all about it here...

An Important Question To Consider: "Should I Stay Home With My Baby?"

There are so many things to consider and keep in mind when it comes to your kids and especially when your new baby comes home.

One of the most important is the careful consideration you have to go through to figure out if you should stay home with your child, or return to the workforce and rely on others to take care of your infant.

You didn't plan on making this decision. You thought going back to work would be fine, but now that your baby has arrived you may be facing one of the most difficult decisions a mother or can make: "Should I stay home with my baby?"

One of downsides of a society that has encouraged women to focus on career and put off having children until they're established is that many women are not prepared for the gut-wrenching desire to stay home and raise their children full time.

You probably remember the days where most families were single-income households, but those days are long gone. Today, some families are working so hard that both parents may be holding down two jobs just to make ends meet.

Don't ask your mother, more than likely she was home with you at least while you were an infant. Your grandmother may never have worked outside the home after children were born, if ever. You must make this decision, and it can be harder than you think - especially if the plan was for you to return to work right away. Here are some of the common concerns and questions you need to consider when deciding if you can stay home with your baby:

"Can We Afford It?"

Probably the most immediate concern is, can you afford to stay home? If you are already counting pennies during your weeks away from work this can be an extremely difficult area to navigate. However, if you feel passionate about staying home consider where you might cut back on living expenses; can you downsize your home or car? Get rid of cell phone payments or reign in your spending habits?

Also consider the cost of daycare, which is usually higher for infants than older children. Take the cost of daycare combined with work related expenses (lunches, clothing, gas, etc.) and subtract it from your monthly income. You may be surprised with how little you actually bring home at the end of the day.

"Will I Ruin My Career?"

No one can give you a guarantee here. It isn't great for a career to go on hiatus for a lengthy period of time, but that doesn't mean it can't be done.

Depending on your career path you may try to upgrade your education prior to returning to the workforce. Perhaps you could even become a contractor or freelancer when you decide to go back. If you don't want to get too far away, try finding part time employment in your field as a compromise.

Something else to consider is the possibility of working from home. More and more companies are offering positions that allow you to stay at home, if not all the time, at least for some of the time. Another thing you could take a closer look at is the possibility of starting your own home-based business or even an online business venture.
You will have to carefully consider how much time you can spend on your business, because let's face it, a new baby does require quite a bit of time and attention and let's be honest, you don't really want to miss the funny faces, the cute sounds and cuddly moments either.

"What if My Partner Doesn't Agree?"

If money gets tight because of your decision and you don't have the support of your partner your relationship is sure to feel the added stress. Combine that with the stress of a new baby and your emotions and esteem are sure to take a blow.

Try at all costs to come to an agreement with your partner. Show the cost comparison of working with staying home. Offer solutions such as taking part time work or work you can do from home. Be realistic about what you can handle. If you must return to work, consider it temporary until you can make arrangements everyone can live with, it will be worth it.

The most important thing in all of this is to openly discuss your options together. You are a team and together you can overcome any problems, provided you talk about it.

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Tuesday, January 24, 2006

Useful tips to keep you from worrying when eating out with your kids











Click here to register for your free ClubMom membershipSanity Tips for Eating Out With the Kids

By Marion Winik

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Believe me when I tell you that the young gentlemen of my household, ages 12 and 9, are not cosmopolitan or gourmands. The best thing you could ever pack in their lunch boxes is a nice cold package of Lunchables, and they love beef jerky, french fries, and pizza. But - here's the surprise - they also sometimes get a yen for sushi, tofu, fried calamari, artichokes, Mexican food, or dim sum. They love to eat out, and they love to eat well.

I'm afraid I can't attribute their tastes to any exceptional quality of their attitudes or palates. I guess it's simply a result of continued exposure to these foods and environments. According to Isobel Contento, a professor of nutrition education at Columbia University's Teachers College in New York City, "Continued exposure to new foods is extremely important. Research suggests that children sometimes need to be exposed to food ten to fifteen times before they develop a liking to the food."

Research by Contento and many of her colleagues supports my hunch: Any kid can learn to dine out and enjoy a broader range of foods, if given the chance. Unfortunately, resisting the temptation to feed kids only "kid food" ordered from "kid menus" at "kid-friendly" restaurants is no piece of Tastycake. But if you don't, you wind up with kids whose narrow palates and general cluelessness about restaurant behavior are the self-fulfilling prophecies of Ronald, Wendy, and the Colonel.

I love going out to eat, but I don't love anything that comes in a nugget or is served in molded plastic. My solution is this: While we do consume our share of burgers and pizza, our family also patronizes real restaurants. If you're ready to try something a little more civilized and adventurous than another trip to KFC, here are a few tips to keep in mind.

Tasting Tips for Kids

The journey of a thousand meals begins with a single bite - or something like that. Here are some clues to guiding that first morsel safely into the hangar.

  • Don't make a huge deal out of the new food in question. Start simply - just let your kids see the grown-ups eating and enjoying it.

  • While you don't want to flat-out lie, remember the old "tastes like chicken" ploy. You might say in your most casual tone, "Want a bite?" Then, when you're asked what it is, say, "It's like steak" (in other words, it's venison). Or try, "Taste a bite and see if you can guess."

  • Never eschew bribes: "A quarter for the first person who can guess what it is." "Taste it and you can pick the dessert."

  • If they absolutely hate it, do not make them eat it. If they're not sure, you might suggest a second taste, perhaps with soy sauce, pepper, or lemon to personalize the flavor.


Rules for Restaurants

Want to get your kids through an eating-out experience without a meltdown? Here are a few guidelines to make it more fun for everyone.

  • Do keep paper and crayons or pens in your purse at all times. This way, the gimmick of kid-friendly restaurants is yours anywhere. Older kids can play hangman and "dots."

  • Don't make a federal case about dressing up. Most restaurants these days don't mind casual clothes, and by choosing one with a relaxed dress code, you'll eliminate one area of dissent.

  • Don't let kids have too much sugary soda before the food arrives.

  • Don't let the waitperson serve meals to the kids first. If you do, the timing will get screwed up: They'll lose patience before you've finished your main course.

  • Don't bring other kids who have more limited palates than your own do. You don't want to get an "ew" thing going.

  • Do allow a field trip or two to the bathroom or the lobby. Accompany your kids the first time to demonstrate acceptable behavior.

  • Don't let your child order some expensive item she's never had before without having her first try an appetizer or tasting portion.


Marion Winik is a writer and a commentator on NPR. Her latest book is The Lunch-Box Chronicles (Vintage).

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Monday, January 23, 2006

Things you shouldn't do during your pregnancy

There are always a lot of different things to consider when you are expecting a child, and sometimes it's all too easy to miss something pretty important.

Here is an article courtesy of our friends over at ClubMom that can help you make sure you have all aspects covered.









Click here to register for your free ClubMom membershipPregnancy No-Nos

By Leah Hennen

http://www.clubmom.com

When I was expecting my first child, threats to my baby's health seemed to lurk everywhere. I knew, of course, that alcohol, cigarettes, and drugs of any kind were off-limits. But what about those lattes I'd chugged before I knew I was pregnant? Did I need to get rid of my beloved cats? What sort of environmental hazards was I unwittingly exposing my fetus to? Nine months of caffeine withdrawal, cat avoidance, and breath-holding-around-noxious-odors later, my strapping baby boy arrived.

Unlike me, you don't have to be paranoid when you're pregnant. "You can't put yourself in a glass bottle during pregnancy—all you can do is avoid known risks," says Dr. Robert Resnik, a professor of reproductive medicine at the University of California, San Diego, School of Medicine. Since some women, such as those with high blood pressure or gestational diabetes, need to take extra precautions, talk to your doctor about special circumstances that relate to you. Also steer clear of the following:

Too Much Caffeine

For java junkies like me, the research on caffeine during pregnancy has been maddeningly contradictory. Some studies point to problems such as miscarriage and low birth weight, while others show no such relationship. The latest consensus is that only excessive amounts of caffeine (more than 300 milligrams a day) are likely to cause these problems, says Dr. Kathleen Bradley, a maternal-fetal medicine specialist and assistant clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the UCLA School of Medicine. The caffeine content of different brews varies, but you should be able to stay under the 300-milligram mark by limiting your daily quaffing to one or two 5-ounce cups of coffee or tea or a few 12-ounce cans of soda. (Since even non-colas can pack quite a caffeine punch, check the label before you imbibe.) And while chocolate does contain caffeine, it typically has much less—1 to 35 milligrams per one ounce—than coffee.

Cat Litter

Cat feces may play host to a parasite that causes toxoplasmosis. The symptoms (fever, fatigue, and sore throat) are similar to those of a garden-variety flu, but the results (miscarriage, preterm labor, or serious health problems in the newborn) can be devastating. Even so, having a baby on board doesn't mean you need to send your puss packing, says Marion McCartney, a certified nurse-midwife and the director of professional services at the American College of Nurse-Midwives in Washington, D.C. It simply means you should put your mate on litter-box duty for the nine-month duration. It's also a good idea to wash your hands after heavy petting sessions with the cat and after handling raw meat. Don't feed yourself or the cat undercooked meat (which can harbor the parasite). Wear gloves when you're gardening and avoid children's sandboxes. (Roaming cats may use these as litter boxes.)

Certain Foods

Beware, foodies: Uncooked, soft cheeses (such as feta, Camembert, Brie, and blue-veined varieties), unpasteurized milk and the foods made from it, and raw or undercooked meats, fish, and poultry may contain listeria bacteria. During pregnancy, listeriosis (symptoms include fever, chills, diarrhea, and nausea) can cause miscarriage, preterm labor, or stillbirth. Some seafood may also contain high levels of mercury, PCBs, and other toxins. If these foods are consumed during pregnancy, the baby is put at risk for developmental delays. (Your local health department may be able to tell you which fish to avoid.) Experts recommend that expecting mothers limit their servings of shark and swordfish—which contain higher levels of mercury than other fish—to one three-ounce serving a month. Finally, lab tests have linked heavy consumption of saccharine to cancer. Though you're not likely to swill enough of the artificial sweetener to equal several times your body weight, you may still want to forgo those little pink packets for now. Aspartame (NutraSweet, Equal) appears to be a safe sugar substitute.

Herbal Remedies

You know that many prescription drugs are off-limits during pregnancy, but the natural remedies you can pick up at health-food stores are okay, aren't they? Guess again: Herbal remedies can have a potent effect on your body—and your baby's—cautions McCartney. Don't take anything without running it by your health-care provider first. She'll most likely tell you not to use any during your first trimester. Throughout your pregnancy, steer clear of goldenseal, mugwort, and pennyroyal, all of which have been associated with uterine contractions (which could possibly lead to miscarriage or preterm labor); Asian ginseng (which interferes with metabolism); and feverfew (though popular for migraine headaches, it has unpredictable effects on pregnant women). It's also wise to avoid herbal teas that purport to have medicinal benefits.

Home Hazards

If you haven't been gripped by that famous pregnancy cleaning-and-nesting frenzy, chances are you will be soon. Safety tips for those 3 a.m. floor-scrubbing and nursery-decorating sessions: Read labels carefully. Wear gloves and work in well-ventilated areas. And avoid aerosols (which disperse more chemicals into the air than pump bottles do), oven cleaners, paint fumes, solvents, and furniture strippers. Although frequent, heavy exposure to chemicals in the workplace (home workshops count, too) has been linked to birth defects, Bradley explains, home use of most products is more likely to make you feel faint or nauseous—not a great proposition when you're nine months pregnant and perched high on a ladder or wedged behind the toilet.

Overheating

Soaking in the hot tub or relaxing in a sauna may seem like the perfect way to pamper your pregnant body, but raising your core temperature—especially during the first trimester—may boost the odds of birth defects. It's safe to soak in a lukewarm bath, though. Just make sure that the temperature is not above 100 degrees and that you get out after about ten minutes, Resnik advises. Sustained exercise in very hot, humid weather can also raise your core temperature. When you do exercise, be sure to drink liquids before, during, and after, and if you find that you're heating up, take a five- or ten-minute breather.

Lead

Lead exposure has been linked to miscarriage, preterm labor, low birth weight, and mental and behavioral problems in children. Residue from the toxic metal can lurk in places you might not suspect: houses built before 1978 (the year lead paint was banned), tap water, even calcium supplements. A few precautions will reduce the amount of lead you come into contact with: Call in a lead-abatement specialist if you live in an older home with chipping or peeling paint. (Whatever you do, don't try to sand or scrape it off yourself.) Filtering your water may help, or have your tap water tested. (Call the Environmental Protection Agency's Safe Drinking Water Hotline at 800-426-4791 for a testing lab in your area.) Finally, if you take a calcium supplement, ask your doctor to recommend one that's low in lead, such as Tums 500 Calcium Supplement.

Oral Sex

Don't worry, you needn't swear off oral gratification entirely. (After all, when you hit that physically awkward last trimester, there may not be much else you can do between the sheets.) But when he's pleasuring you, your mate should be careful not to blow air into your vagina, if that's something that's part of his, uh, repertoire. Why? Your blood vessels are dilated during pregnancy, and, though the chances of this happening are very rare, a fatal air bubble could potentially enter your bloodstream, McCartney explains.

Certain Over-the-Counter Drugs

Your back is aching, your heart is burning, and your stomach is roiling—do you have to forgo all pharmaceutical relief? Not necessarily, says Bradley. But since even benign-seeming remedies, such as aspirin, ibuprofen, and certain cold preparations, can cause problems for your baby, don't pop any pill without your doctor's approval. If one medication is off-limits, she can suggest an alternative. Acetaminophen (Tylenol), for instance, is fine.

Secondhand Smoke

You may have given up cigarettes, but if your mate's still puffing away, your baby's getting hefty doses of the 43 cancer-causing chemicals in cigarette smoke. In fact, exposure to secondhand smoke during pregnancy raises the risk of low birth weight, sudden infant death syndrome, and other health problems. So ask your partner to quit or to cut down—if not for his own health, then for yours and your baby's. And tell anyone who lights up around you to kindly take it outside.

Stress

Every time you look down, your growing belly reminds you of just how much your life will change once your baby is born. Exciting, yes. Stressful? You bet. Even so, try to take it easy. Stress causes the release of hormones that reduce blood flow to the placenta and triggers contractions, and it has been linked to miscarriage, preterm birth, and low birth weight, Bradley explains. If you hold a high-pressure job, do what you can to scale back. If you're feeling the heat in your personal life, practice relaxation techniques, surround yourself with supportive people, and seek counseling if need be.

Vitamin A

As is the case with its chemical relative Accutane (a prescription acne drug), high doses of vitamin A during pregnancy can cause heart and facial defects, says Resnik. How much is too much? Some studies have indicated that problems can occur when pregnant women take more than 10,000 international units (IU) a day, while others list 25,000 IUs and even 50,000 IUs as the threshold. You get a fair amount of vitamin A from the food you eat, and though the dose in your prenatal vitamin should be fine, your doctor can tell you whether it's an excessive amount.

Leah Hennen is a writer and editor in San Francisco and the mother of two, ages four and one.

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Saturday, January 21, 2006

Stretch Mark Prevention for the Human Body

(by Xavier Nelson)

Many women tend to be concerned about stretchmarks during and after their pregnancy, but luckily, there are a few things you can do to help your body during this time.

The human body is a complex system. Most of the time the body functions without much intervention from its owner. It does, however, require the correct ingredients to function correctly. When there is a problem it is often indicated externally - this is the case with stretchmarks.

There is very little that you can do to prevent stretchmarks that result from your genetic makeup. However, stretch mark prevention is possible when its cause is related to hormonal inbalance. The following are some easy tips for stretch mark prevention.

Do not gain or lose weight rapidly. If your body changes its physical composition too quickly, all the processes may not function properly. In relation to stretchmarks this means collagen and elastin may not be produced fast enough. These elements are essential for keeping your skin flexible and smooth.

Keep your body hydrated. You have undoubtedly heard it before, but there is never too much information on the benefit of drinking water. Water helps to prevent stretch marks by helping the body stay moisturized. There are constant debates over the amount of water an individual should consume. The best indicator is your urine. Urine that is close to colorless is an indication that you are well hydrated. You should drink many glasses of water per day. Also, try to ensure that it is pure water as some flavored waters have additives and colorings that take away from the quality of the water.

This is a very important point, to keep in mind, not just for your body, but for your baby too.

Exercise. Daily exercise is just as important as staying hydrated. The two work together to keep your body free of toxins. Exercise will also keep your body well toned and keep excess fat at bay. Strength training is a good method for toning, but a daily walk is all that is necessary for many people to stay in good health.

Moisturize your skin. Applying a moisturizer helps to keep your skin supple and smooth. You want to use products with natural ingredients. Stretch mark prevention oil is available from many retailers - try and get recommendations from friends before buying. Pregnant women are susceptible to strechmarks and a moisturizer with natural ingredients assures the mother that no harm will come to her baby as a result of using the product. Many mothers recommend using a natural product such as cocoa butter.

When you take care of your body it will take care of you. As long as you nourish your body and keep it healthy you should be able to minimize stretchmarks, even from pregnancy and childbirth.

With a little time, some effort, and the love of your family, you will see that stretchmarks are nothing to worry about.

Enjoy life with your family.

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Thursday, January 19, 2006

Here are the Most Popular Baby Names of 2005

Every year Baby Zone compiles a list of the top baby names as they see it and it's always an interesting read.
We're pleased to announce BabyZone’s 100 most popular names of 2005! Are you looking for the trendiest moniker of the year? Or are you hoping to find something obscure or unique? No matter your preference, our list can help.


The BabyZone Most Popular Baby Names of 2005 list is compiled from over 500,000 entries by BabyZone members in their baby baskets, birth announcements, and baby books. The list is a representation of international naming queries and should not be confused with the United States Social Security Administration’s annual most popular baby name data (which will not be published until spring of 2006). Rather, this list offers an array of trends and tendencies—an insight into what is to come and what you might consider in your quest for the perfect baby name

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What You Need to Know When Considering a Home Birth

Are you contemplating a home birth? Perhaps like many women in North America you are seeking to avoid invasive medical treatments and desire a relaxed, warm environment to welcome your child into.

If this is the first home birth you are considering it is wise to ask questions regarding the safety of the home birth experience. What should you consider before deciding and what steps should you take to ensure the health of yourself and your infant?

IS HOME BIRTH AS SAFE AS HOSPITAL DELIVERY?

The answer, according to a study performed by Kenneth Johnson of the Public Health Agency of Canada and Betty-Anne Daviss of the Safe Motherhood/Newborn Initiative, is that home births can be a safe option for low risk pregnancies.

The research conducted on 5418 women in the US and Canada showed that home births resulted in lower medical intervention than similar low risk births in hospitals. That means less epidurals, episiotomies, forceps deliveries, vacuum extractions, and caesarean sections than those given to women with low risk pregnancies who delivered in the hospital.

During the study only 12% of the women were transferred to hospital during labor or postpartum. All of the women in the study planned a home birth before labor and were attended to by a certified midwife.

Despite the lack of medical intervention, the health of the mother and infant was similar to the health of mother and baby who delivered in the hospital. If you are considering a home birth it is essential to have a registered nurse-midwife or doctor who is experienced in home birth deliveries to be present.

Still, professionals disagree on the safety of home births in America and despite the rising costs of doctors and hospital births, many feel that a birth belongs in the hospital rather than the home.

WHO MIGHT CONSIDER A HOME BIRTH?

Home births are only recommended as an option for low risk pregnancies. Traditionally, births were always made at home, among family and friends, but industrialization has changed the way many look at birth. Instead of considering a birth to be a medical emergency, it should be recognized as a natural process. When a woman with a low risk pregnancy arranges for professional midwife or physician care, a home birth can be considered a safe and natural process.

However, high risk pregnancies and lack of professional assistance will greatly increase the risk to both mother and child in a home birth. If you have complications with your pregnancy, including a previous caesarean, high blood pressure, diabetes or multiple gestation, a home birth should not be attempted.

Giving birth at home is an experience that women throughout the world and throughout history have shared. If you are interested in a home birth contact a midwife or speak to your obstetrician about your options.

Friday, January 13, 2006

12 COMMANDMENTS FOR PARENTS

by Xavier Nelson

In a child’s education an important factor is the parents’ expertise for this “job”. No one is born holding all the knowledge, but we can learn and understand some things from books or advice from qualified persons.

Amongst the commandments a parent should strictly follow are the following:

1. Do not underestimate your child – he can understand more than you think he does and if you make him believe you think poorly of him this might affect his development.

2. Don’t use threat – a child loves a challenge and once threatened he might probably go on and do what he wasn’t suppose to just to see if he can escape the punishment.

3. Do not bribe your child – if you are trying to get him to learn for money for example, he will fail to understand the importance of learning, all he will get from this is the importance of money.

4. Do not make a small child promise something – small children can’t hold promises so don’t force them to lie and then punish them because they did that.

5. Do not keep them under a short leash – to grow up normally children need some space, some freedom.

6. Do not use big words or too many words when you are talking to your child – keep your ideas simple and concise so he can understand every thing you have to say.

7. Do not expect an immediate and blind obedience – it is not recommended, the child has to be learned to think for his own not to follow orders.

8. Do not indulge him too mush – he can develop compartmental disorders.

9. Do not compromise when it comes to the rules of a game – the trick for a game to become educative is too have its initial rules respected.

10. Don’t impose rules that don’t go with the age of your child.

11. Do not try to inflict quilt – quilt is not an appropriate feeling for children, especially if they are little.

12. Don’t give your child orders that you don’t take seriously – your child will try to please you and giving him an order is drastic, and it becomes cruel if that order is a joke.

All these “commandments” are addressed first to the parent. But they are to be referred to by teachers and educators as well. Along with the parents, they will settle upon an attitude and strategy for the education and growth of the child, so that they can give him all the things he needs to properly develop emotional and physically.

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Xavier Nelson is an Entrepreneurial Consultant, specializing in helping
others achieve the success they desire in their home-based business at http://www.businessinformationconnection.com . At home he likes to spend as much time as possible with his wife, their 4 boys and baby twins, a challenge and an immense joy at the same time. For more parenting tips and advice visit the tool box at http://bicxn.rehuxley.hop.clickbank.net today!
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